It...

...doesn't end there, or here, or that way, or this way...it ends how we know not...like a thief in the night...

It won't start with a preceding trumpet nor a hallelujah shout of angels...it begins with desire, it begins with a look, a thought, a letting in of affection and words spoken...

The long and short of grace is, it comes with a decision; an understanding of our frailty, our proclivity for failure, to choose un-wisely again, and again. It comes with an acknowledgement of our own weakness which leads to a sense of empathy and a decided lack of judgement.

This is not something the toxic personality comprehends...they take each mistake and twist, turn, squeeze, until it resembles nothing close to reality or true events. How then, when they have done every little thing on their own (lie #103 in the monster handbook), can they stand, let alone love you when you fail, when you take a step in the wrong direction.

According to rule #99, you deserve no respect, no kindness, no leeway to be human.

Oh it is a convoluted chaotic set of ever changing, ever morphing guidelines rather than rules set in stone. Purposely flexible for changing attitudes and ideas on how to torment and torture. There is no peace with the perpetrator....ever. Moments of stress free fun are taken in, all while watching, waiting, anticipating with dread, the next pounce...the next fanatical raging tantrum. It becomes next to impossible to enjoy those slices of time of peace in a war that runs with no reasoning.

It may sound like a broken record running over, skipping, screeching before finally settling on the same theme, the same sad stories....truly sad that each abuser lives with the same MO...searches for a 'type' they can slowly and insidiously destroy from the inside out, from the outside in...

I pray you hear my heart in these writings, these musings that fill the page.

Each day, here in our beloved Canada, every 48 hours a woman is killed in an abusive relationship. Shocking statistics...catastrophic numbers...and yet, no front page news, no splashing social media attention.

It costs lives: in 2022, 184 women and girls were violently killed, primarily by men. One woman or girl is killed every 48 hours (Canadian Femicide Observatory for Justice and Accountability, 2022)

Convinced yet? These are our women and young girls we are losing to an epidemic of giant proportions...and still our court system continues to trip along on sluggish wheels of clay.

Sitting with a woman of education, of trauma informed approach and in charge of a society for women here in my little hamlet, we spoke on the effects, the outcomes, the police involvement or lack thereof, the men in the area walking about free to seek new supply, new prey for their sick games.

Nothing but admiration for the work she sets her hands to, the stories she is privy to...exhausting, overwhelming stories that will have you locking your doors, buying the requisite shotgun and locking up your daughters.

Predators exist...and they do not walk on four legs....

My intent today is to educate...my intent is to speak truth with grace, with kindness...my intent is to reach those lost souls still believing there is something intrinsically wrong with THEM. The lost ones who walk each day in a fog so thick you could cut out a slice and consume it whole...those who continue to love despite the beat downs, the vitriol spewing from the filthy mouths of the monster...there is hope, there is peace, there is comfort waiting for you outside the prison bars that hold you in with lies, with deceit.

Truth dear treasures....truth will set you free, courage will propel your steps, faith will hold you close...

Walk it out....speak your truth with dignity, with grace, with wisdom...

Stand tall dear friends...straighten your spine, lift that chin and view the world you reside in with new eyes, eyes that see and comprehend the truth....YOU are not the problem...see my friends, see the monster for who they truly are and the truth shall set you on the path to freedom...with wisdom I pray you seek help, with blessings of protection and courage I pray you find your way free, for God is faithful to provide a way...Waymaker! Light in The Darkness...your guiding light my friends.

Go now and find your worth, your path forward is full of light, of grace, of joy unspeakable, of peace unceasing, of love without reservation or judgement.

You are worthy, truly deeply wonderful as you are, each one.