An Accounting....their Time Will come

We distract ourselves with things that mean nothing in the long run....games, social media, the online world of no matter how perverse you can find it...for free, YouTube, the top series like Yellowstone (my personal favourite), movies and on and on.....I came across a picture I was sent of a hunk of burnin love...and my first thought was nice tattoos dude..and closed it....

I don't run in that direction...looks mean nada. It struck me that we are so conditioned to be distracted and to seek distraction and fulfill any desire, that the social norm for principles of character have fallen so far below the radar as to be non-existent.

Character, as I used to tell my children, is the single most important thing in this world and will propel you to success more than anything else could. I spoke to my boys most especially as I felt we were living in an age where chivalry and truth of character were scarce and I wanted them to understand that no matter what they accomplished, the money they made, the talent they had athletically... it all means naught if you are lacking character. I believe that what follows strength of character are all the critical principles; Love, compassion, kindness, respect, a giving heart to start.

This Dear hearts is what I missed observing in my own partner at the time. The signs were not recognizable for the first while... I'd say 2 months in I began to see the type of hint that was hard to ignore. The hiding what he was doing on his phone, the taking the phone into the bathroom with him, the messages from other women, the 'single' status on his social media platforms that he refused to change and no pictures of us posted anywhere...ever. I could go on but you get the picture I'm painting here. To his online friends I did not exist and he enjoyed the attention and validation he received from his peers and most especially the women; young, old, somewhere in between, it did not matter...he thrived on the attention, thrived on the distraction.

However, if I received a message from a man, or any attention to my posts in any way he would take off like NASA's infamous rocket launches. 0 to Mach 10 in a heartbeat...flames erupting from his ears, daggers flying from his eyes and liquid acid spewing from his lips...

The Hypocrisy and double standard routine is staggering in its intensity when dealing with Sociopaths/psychopaths.

It sounds so dramatic to me as I type....laying it out on the page is akin to clanging, crashing symbols, a 'devil went down to Georgia' writing style if ever I've seen one. Drama, however, is their particular forte, and so in the telling of these mini stories, the drama speaks loudly

I humbly ask for your patience as I work out some of my angst in this blog.

I pray that the words would reach every struggling woman or man living out a nightmare strikingly similar to ours, right now.

I pray that you see who you are, lovely and wonderful and worthy of a magical kind of love. You deserve it.... you truly do.

I pray that you see the monster within the man/woman you love...but even more, I pray for the grace to accept that you have been fooled, lied to, broken down into mere pieces of yourself, by a master charlatan.

I pray for the grace to forgive yourself and let that fall to the side. You were not the problem.... the malicious mental struggle lies within the abuser.

Whatever label you assign to him, there is a ferocious broken child living inside that mind, inside that heart.

Black as sin and dark as night, that traumatized child lives only to pull sunlight into the deep vacuous wickedness that houses his soul, in order to survive. Once you are used up, the discard begins.

Oh, dear hearts I know I am preaching to the choir here, as you've felt it, dealt with it/dealing with it still, and know or are beginning to suspect that you have given your precious love away to the evil within that man/woman.

This is where courage and truth meet....the warning I would deliver is this....

As you stand for yourself with grace and dignity, prepare yourself for war.

Prepare yourself for a backlash that you have perhaps not yet seen.

Stay the course and most important of all, survive.

May God keep you and watch over you.