Hide Your Light...

Oh the 'block, move, hide, disappear' words spoken over the survivors of intense traumatic events....dear friends, we live in a different world than we did even ten years ago, it is time to set aside wisdoms gained during the age of analog.

It is time to stop hiding, disappearing on every social media platform and living a life more given to mushrooms than humans.

Dig in...dig that trench, that hovel, that bunker against the wiles of an enemy with the use of technology at their fingertips...pull your face, your words, your social media presence to show the narcissist, the inherent abusive, monstrous psychopathy we have no need of them, that we have left them far behind...perhaps words of advice from those who know nothing of the age of technology, know nothing of abuse and its many facets, know nothing of healing, only of hiding.

F*ck that noise...yes...expletives are most definitely necessary.

The age of invisibility is over....the time for remaining camouflaged is done...

The time for justice has begun...women are beginning to stand, to speak of uncomfortable things, of mayhem and torment...oh its uncomfortable alright...

I would say this my friends...if a woman or man can open up and speak of those things concealed and done in dark places and spaces, in secret...it is a mark of courage, not attention seeking...it is a mark of doing what hurts, of determination in the face of ignorance and well-meaning, uninformed voices.

You see dear hearts...if we hide our light, if we disappear...oh it is what the monster loves...it is what is necessary to continue doing dark deeds...he laughs at the justice system, he throws up the middle finger at the police force in mockery and disrespect.

Crown Counsel...police force...Probation Officers...Victim Services...all a joke in a high stakes game he believes to be the winner in.

This isn't the boyfriend who betrayed, so you pack up and move on...leaving the ridiculous boy-in-a-mans body behind...disappearing from their lives...check....

This isn't the friend who spoke out against you, one you thought a friend, a confidant...so you metaphorically pack up and move on...disappearing quietly...preferring the comfort and mutual respect of forever friends...

No...this is so much more...this is evil residing in one you thought to love free from it...

This is monstrous behaviours befitting a child-king with no life experience, only spoiled, entitled and wanting what they want...right NOW...

Disappearing only baits the hook...waves the red flag in front of the raging bull...

Justice...bringing justice to their doorstep...this is the way...otherwise, my dear hearts, I fear they will dog your steps for years to come.

Don't hide your light Queens...Kings...speak your truth, kindly...walk tall, proudly, with humility...know your worth and fight for your place in this world...fight for your right to live in peace, in love, in joy....

This does not mean ducking out the side door...or at least not for long...rest, revive, fight...

This does not mean ridding yourself of all that you love...it does not mean shrinking your life, your goals, your dreams down for someone who deserves nothing, nada, zilch, from you, let alone your life post-monster, post-taker, post-user and abuser, post-betrayer-cheater, post-cowardly little man.

Hide your light no more dear dear lost ones, dear dear survivors...and regular-life-sometimes-sucks people...speak...walk...

'Arise, shine for your light has come...' Isaiah 60

You are, each one of you, beautifully and wonderfully made...now let it shine, whatever that means for you. And remember...remember to thank the one who made you so creatively, so uniquely you...

Yeah...I'm going to declare garbage on that one....perhaps you do it in secret, hidden for your life is in danger otherwise...this I understand, oh yes. I remain hidden...in plain sight...

However, we still take it to the door of the one responsible, to the one being held accountable by our work only...we advocate for ourselves...and for those who do not know, it is by far the hardest task a survivor will ever needs do. We have been told for so long that we are useless, no one cares, police don't care, we are alone and not worth the fight...and on and on the lies go...this is what we must face when standing, when speaking...so go gently, go kindly my friends...

But go...walk it out...speak it out...never mind the naysayers, the uninformed, the educated with a lack of experienced knowledge...it is for us to either speak, or walk...

The ones who know you, will know...will understand from whence you speak...

From the heart...from the spirit...from the soul....digging deeper with each successive day, each successive sit down pouring it all out on the screen in front of me, steaming coffee at my elbow, crackling fire in front of me, floppy puppy creating distractions and giving love.

Let us question dear hearts...let us move and seek out truth...let us push for more, educate for better understanding...let us speak the uncomfortable truths, gently.

My prayer for you today is one of courage...and of a way being made, so clearly, so defining you know exactly where, when, how in the midst of chaos and pain...cutting through the confusion, the fear, with a well lit path extending before your eyes...these miracles are all possible, more than probable, and in your future.

You will see miracles; the free air you breathe...the lack of fear over a word, a gesture...

You will see joy; the peace of a morning, waking to no anxiety, no egg shells littering the floor wherever you walk, like the game of shark or lava we all played as children.

You will know love; the kindness that undoes you in a moment, from a stranger...the loving nature of a child who loves without judgement...the hugs and kisses from grandchildren who look so forward to hanging with grama...

You will know peace; a peace that passes all understanding...that leaves you in tears of relief from the chaos and fear that pervaded the relationship.

It is your time dear treasures...it is your time to shine, to arise, take up your bed and walk, run, jump, leap, LIVE....

Today, we declare...I declare...no hiding...no running...no disappearing...let my presence irritate, let my light shine upon their darkness, illuminating their dastardly deeds done in hidden, dark places. Let us bring justice to the door of the perverted, evil children living in adult bodies...let us bring it home to them where it belongs...that shame, that sorrow, that remorse and pain? It belongs not to you dear lost one...no, it belongs squarely in the lap of the aggressor, the violent, manipulative, machiavellian, ego-maniac currently busting down your doors, your boundaries, your spirit. Yeah, that one. Squarely....