Pollyanna Narcissistic Enabler

That woman friend who enables the narcissistic abuser. Creates a safe place for the abuser to run to, to use and gives them a heightened sense of importance. I mean who else is going to save him when he can't save himself?

example: vehicles, camper and other items insured through her name. The abuser is not able to insure things himself as he does not have a drivers license.

This enabler posts things on her FB that defends the abuser and casts blame and shame on the Victim of the physical, mental, verbal, emotional abuse.

Invalidates all the mistreatment for her own gains.

How else can you explain the reason behind all the rationalizations for the behaviour seen by the enabler over a 25 year period, for the many many women he has gone through with the same results?

Abuses documented through charges being laid and court time, as well as jail time, for the abuser.... but hey, he isn't like that....

It wasn't his fault.... He didn't do anything wrong, it's all rumours and poisonous tales.

Lord save us from these type of enablers as they are as bad as or worse than the abuser himself.

Dear hearts, do not be fooled or made to feel shame or blame by these hangers-on, these enablers who speak up for the abuser. You're not crazy, you're not wrong for leaving the abuse.

Believe this please.... It was NOT your fault.

Remember this please.... they made it impossible to stay.

When you fear for your life and those of your children or pets or whatever/whoever else is involved, that is not your fault.

When you constantly question your own sanity, that is NOT your fault.

You have been manipulated, controlled, gaslit, verbally shamed, beaten physically.... whatever IT is that you've been through with your own personal monster, IT does not belong on your plate. That belongs squarely on the person in your life that has perpetrated the acts that have placed you there.

you sure as hell did not get there yourself.

No, it is a road created by and for the monster in your life. They have mapped out your path from the moment you stepped into their life. Make no mistake, they know exactly what they're doing and the plans they have for you are vicious and torturous.

It is a difficult place to come to, admitting that the man/woman that you love(d) could be so evil and heartless. In order to survive however, you must come to a place of acceptance and knowledge that it is not you. Oh no, it is not you. Only then will you be able to leave the heartache and abuse behind.

Stay strong dear ones and survive, you got this!